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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray Published by Harper Paperbacks on Apr 3, 2012 (first published 1992)
Genres: Nonfiction, Self-Help
Pages: 368
Format: eBook
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Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Based on years of successful counselling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realise how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.
My review:
I believe we can learn a thing or two from the book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. The title used to be the joke of conversations but now that I have read the book, it is actually quite a useful guide for men and women relationships as well as personal growth.
Right from the start of the book, the author, John Gray, keeps mentioning that men and women are supposed to be different. They cannot be expected to know what the other is thinking or feeling all the time unless the other one is expressing it out loud. However, simply lashing out at your other half may have its implications so the author has provided advice on handling such tricky situations.
This book should only be used as a guide and readers could read it with an open mind. Gray keeps things light-hearted and uses language that is easy to understand. It is still funny to me that he calls men ‘Martians’ and that women are ‘Venusians’. I also like that he includes personal stories, usually featuring his wife Bonnie, to help him get the message across. He also gives examples of situations that relationships tend to face down the road.
Gray likens men to be like rubber bands, meaning that they will bounce back after pulling away. On the other hand, he describes women as behaving like waves. It seems that a woman’s self-esteem and feelings rise and fall in a wave motion. She has to hit bottom before feeling better again. I wonder if this could be related to the woman’s monthly cycle.
There is a chapter where Gray promotes the writing of Love Letters. He stresses the importance of writing such letters instead of getting into a fight with a partner, spouse, family member or friend if you do not get what you want from them. You are also encouraged to write Love Letters to yourself as it heals the pain you are feeling.
It has been a really insightful read and pretty entertaining too. Gray gives sound advice for both genders on various aspects of communication, reaction and response. He claims that this book has helped millions of readers including himself.
So the next time you find yourself scratching your head and wondering how to deal with the him/her in your life, try picking up this book and enjoy the read.
About John Gray
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John Gray is the leading relationship expert in the world. His relationship and health books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages. His groundbreaking book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, is the best-selling non-fiction book of all time. It launched his Mars Venus book series that forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.